Why Mediate?

Diane McInnis

Separation is STRESSFUL
For most people, the experience of separation and divorce is one of life’s most stressful events, second only to the death of a spouse1. Understanding that your stress level is high, and your partner’s stress level is high can give you insight as to why you both may be saying or doing things that under normal circumstances, you would not do or say.  People often act in ways that may seem out of character, which starts a cycle of doubt about the other person and the basis for your relationship.
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​This is not the person I FELL IN LOVE WITH
Often, people begin the process of separation with a desire to resolve issues peacefully.  They want to be respectful.  Sometimes, they have preconceived notions of what their separation will look like.  Surely, they will be one of the couples that lovingly share the parenting of their children, and have a friendly relationship after their divorce, just like in the movies.  So, what went wrong?  Why is the other person being so unreasonable? Who is this person?  Why is this not going the way I planned?

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